It’s tough to make predictions, especially about the future. ~ Yogi Berra
Hello. It’s me.
Thank you for reading this blog. I haven’t posted here in a long, long time, and I have catching up to do. One good way to cover a lot of ground with simplicity is a list.
I am grateful to all of you who read my emails and blog posts. More to come! I really appreciate your participation and support.
I am so sorry for not being in touch with you recently. It’s been frustrating to be away from writing emails and blog posts more frequently than I’ve been able to. I intend to do better and I’m planning to share new information and developments, plus plenty of good news and positive stuff, too.
I aim to make amends: I’ll provide a bit of worthwhile reading regularly and, hopefully, add a few useful thoughts and ideas to the mix. I want to reconnect and nurture our conversation. We have lots to share and learn from each other. It matters to me.
4. Good News
At the end of July, I was honored by the Brain Injury Law Center as their “Teach Believe Inspire” award recipient. I was selected for this award because of my book, A Normal Life, about my older sister Molly’s brain injury from carbon monoxide poisoning and its impact on her and our family, and for my presentations and other efforts to raise awareness about brain injury and CO poisoning. The Brain Injury Law Center posted a short article and Q&A on their website. You can also use this link to take a look.
I’ve had big changes and all kinds of new challenges demand my energy and attention over the past few months. I try to focus on just doing the next right thing each day. It’s been hard, though, to find time to call my own. Those of you who are caregivers will know this refrain.
6. New Beginnings
I will get on with it. And we’ll catch up along the way.
This bullet list is a summary of the past few months. I’ll tell these stories and share the lessons I’m learning in future blog posts. It’s been an amazing time.
- August 2014
I moved from New York to Colorado, with my two cats in the back of my Honda Civic. We move into Molly’s basement, and I take over day-t0-day caregiving for Molly. Mom finally gets some much needed and well-deserved relief.
- September 2014
I move in to a small apartment with bright sunny windows, which my cats and I really needed after our basement stint. The apartment is just a short walk or run to Molly’s house and I continue to be with Molly every day.
I begin regular attendance at a support group for family members of people with brain injuries. It’s a great resource and a lifeline.
- October 2014
After a four-day trip back to New York for some book signing events, I begin researching and visiting residences for people with brain injuries around Colorado.
The time was right to take the initial steps to move Molly from her house and in to a new home with better and more care than I or my family members could (or should) provide.
- November 2014
My cat, Utah, dies near the end of the month. My other cat, Pablo, and I do our best to comfort each other in our grief and pull through the loss of our longtime family member.
My family visits and spreads lots of support and love to me and Pablo on Thanksgiving weekend.
- December 2014
My search for an appropriate home for Molly continues. I put Molly’s name on the waiting lists at all the possible places, and I’m told the wait could be long. Months. Years. I remain motivated by Molly’s declining abilities to function safely or happily in her house and by her increasing frustration and anger at me and everyone. I speak honestly and carefully with Molly about my search for her new home. We even visit one place together, which she handles surprisingly well. But she remains grouchy and angry much of the time. I try to understand her fear and frustration and push ahead.
Coming Up Next…
2015 arrives and big changes are in store for Molly and our family. Stay tuned for the story of Molly’s move to a home for people with brain injuries and how we not only survived it, but how Molly is thriving.
And forward we go! Please leave a comment, ask a question, or share your ideas. I’d love to hear from you.
Thank you for your interest. It means the world.
P.S. If you know of someone–a family member, friend, colleague, client–who enjoys inspiring stories, please tell them about my website, my blog, or my book. Also, it’s easy and wonderful (and super helpful!) to connect and share on social media. Thanks so much.